It was shaping up to be another boring night at home, scrolling through the Tinder feed.

I knew it was bad because I was seeing women I’d already passed on weeks or even days before. Clearly the site was running out of women in my local area. And there was only so many times I could play around with my profile, adding or deleting photos...fiddling with my bio... rethinking my likes. No matter what changes I made, though, the women never seemed to ‘like’ me back.

On the rare times they did, the conversations never went anywhere. Typically it’d be me asking about them, perhaps getting a response before a...