"Sometimes, but friends and family have mostly been surprisingly cool with it," I said.

She nodded her head. "Good, I'm glad. Look, I know it's none of my business, but I have some experience in these relationships - the ones that worked like mine, and the ones that don't, which are too many to count."

Now I was curious. I nodded at her to continue.

"If it's love and the real thing, then you pay no attention to anyone and love her like crazy. Time goes by faster than you think. But if this is, and pardon me, a thing to help you get over your late wife, that's not...