"Ask yourself: is there anything -- any one single sexual act -- that you want to watch me do with another man. And you want to watch that so much, that you would be willing to let me watch you do the same thing with him first? If there is, we start with that one. Once we both have experienced the first round, we can talk it over and decide if we want to continue."

This gave me a lot to think about. There were so many things that I wanted to watch her do with another man. But I eliminated every one that came to mind as soon as...