Steff was surprised when we showed up so soon and asked why. I suggested we talk about the issue together. Several minutes later the three of us sat around the kitchen table in varying degrees of undress, slurping the hot drinks. When I explained to her my concerns, she almost laughed out loud.

"Amber, do you really think I'd suggest you two get together if I wasn't comfortable with the idea? Good God, I was just down the hall. And I want you to have some fun this morning, too."

"I guess I'm very sensitive to personalities and how this whole thing could go off the rails if we don't...