My wife has a gay friend who is on Grindr that I did not know about. He found my account and started messaging me. We did some sexting but when he wanted to hook up I said I did not meet IRL. He kept pushing and I kept saying no. He showed the messages to my wife and they discussed it and then she confronted me. I was extremely embarrassed and scared. I explained that it was just fantasy and that I would not cheat on her.

After about an hour of talking it through, she decided that it was wrong of me to string her friend along if I...