Pleasure is another word for pain. Just think a second about that. When a guy hurts your feelings, but then he gets sorry and begs for pardon, coming back to you? WOW. That’s satisfying. Or when your boss tells you in front of everyone that you didn’t do right, but the next month you come back to the presentation day, as the best job employee, the Queen of the day? That’s cool.

American movies taught us that to fail and to feel pain is another word for having success in life. And I am cool with that. I think they discovered something deeper. I'm a masochist: this means I get...