When I went to college I made friends with a psychology major. I stopped in at one of the snack bars and it was crowded. There was a woman sitting at a table for two and I asked if she would mind sharing.

Dressed in tee shirt and jeans, no make up and with buzzed hair, she practically screamed BUTCH. Looking over the text book at me she shrugged. There was a hard edge to her voice.

"Sure, but don't expect anything, I'm gay."

In mock surprise I said "Really? Damn, I was already thinking of names for our kids."

It wasn't what she was expecting. She didn't know what...