I know I didn't do this right. I probably wouldn't do it again, but this is how it happened and was probably the most likely result under any circumstance.

Jim and I had been married 21 years. At the time Jim would have told you it was a great 21 years. I would have said so too, but I'd have been lying. Marriage was what I expected. My parents were married for 50 years. I don't really remember them being affectionate towards each other. That was where we were.

He and I dated for 12 months before we got engaged and we were married 3 months later. He was a...