"I think so. So it's not just about using dirty words."

I shook my head.

"Not really. I mean that is nice, and that's part of it, but I think it's more about really diving into the situation. Really being there. It's kinda like a vocal stimulation, or a mental one, or something."

She tilted her head in silent contemplation. And for a moment, a question hit me that I had never thought to ask.

"What about for you?"

"Huh?" She looked back at me.

"Do you like it when a guy talks dirty?" I asked.

She just looked at me quizzically.

"Sorry, I just never asked a girl that...